As we go through life it is easy to look back and see how
we have progressed, matured and changed. We evaluate our successes and
failures. I think that is called “learning from experience”.
I see people in their 20’s getting married and I can’t
help but scratch my head and wonder how in the hell can they possibly be ready?
I was in my 30’s when I got married and I still don’t know how I did it then.
Throw some kids in the mix and I just feel like there is no way anyone should
get married before they are 30 years old.
Now, there is something to be said for those that married early, had
kids early and now they are in their 40s with grown children and the rest of
their life free and clear to do as they want. I have a wonderful friend that is
in this very situation. After floundering a little and wondering what the hell
she was going to do with all her free time she decided to go back to school and
get a college degree. Why not? In this “in between time”, after her girls are
grown and before she becomes a granny, she has the perfect window of time to
travel, educate and enjoy herself. I won’t get that till I am in my late 50’s.
God Bless Her. I hope she can take some time and hang out with me when I get
there. 
I can’t imagine myself if I had done the same things at
an earlier age. I have two other friends that find themselves single in their
40’s. One, due to circumstances beyond her control and the other by choice.
Both these ladies have blossomed in their single-dom and they should be proud
of what they have accomplished because they have risen above their
circumstances and have proven to themselves they are survivors and champions!
Only one of my friends is left and she is in the same
boat as I am … two kids, home, husband, all star travel sports teams and a life
so busy she is lucky she finds time to sleep
We are all “mid lifers” now .Three of my four friends
find themselves now in their prime with the time get to know themselves and
love who they are. I did that in my late 20’s so I am a bit backwards. In the
end it is all about knowing who you are, loving who you are and accepting who
you are. The older we get the less we are concerned about fitting in with
others and more concerned about those fitting with in with us. That is what
makes these four lovely ladies I call my closest friends so very special. Now
that we are in our 40’s we know who we are and we can enjoy each other without
judgment. We have all known each other for what seems like at least half our
lives. We are the advice givers, cheerleaders, shoulders and pillars of
strength for each other and for that I am a very blessed.
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